Speaking of, who hasn’t heard about Kim Kardashian’s intention to file for divorce from husband, Kris Humphries, 10 weeks into their marriage? Kim prides herself on being a business-savvy reality TV star and fashion mogul. So how could this business-savvy woman lose control and make the biggest mistake yet?
The answer lies directly in the blog post of this bodacious un-newlywed. Here’s how you can avoid pulling a “Kim Kardashian” and sacrificing your marriage to the proverbial wedding-craze.
- Keep private. From Kim’s blog: “I share so much of my life on a reality show, that contemplating whether to even film my wedding was a tough decision to make, and maybe it turned out to not be the smartest decision.” Granted, we don’t have our own reality TV shows, but we do have Facebook, Twitter, wedding websites, and other outlets to share information with a wide group of people. Business-savvy professionals often set expectations up-front, so do the same as a business-savvy bride. Decide with your hubby what moments will be kept private and where you should draw the information-sharing line.
- Slow down. From Kim’s blog: “I rushed in to something too soon.” Sing with me now, Wise men say only fools rush in, but I can’t help falling in love with you. The wise men never did say what fools rush into. To the singers dismay, maybe the wise men did think it’s OK to fall in love quickly – isn’t that often how it happens? Rushing into a wedding, on the other hand, is something I’m sure the wise men would say “STOP!” One of my favorite celebrity wedding planners, Mindy Weiss, said in one of her books that planning a wedding with your hubby is a good test course for a life with him. Business-savvy brides and grooms develop the problem solving and emotional intelligence techniques that are crucial for a marriage. Avoid grabbing the wheel and hitting the gas…slow down and work on getting to know the hubster in a new way.
- Keep the end in mind. From Kim’s blog: “I got caught up with the hoopla and the filming of the TV show that when I probably should have ended my relationship, I didn’t know how to and didn’t want to disappoint a lot of people.” Wedding planning and the wedding is indeed a huge hoopla, but it’s not the end. Burn this in your memory – after a wedding comes a marriage. Sustaining your marriage starts way before you say, “I do.” In fact, it goes back to saying yes to the marriage proposal. In the end, it’s all about two people: you and him. Focus on a) not disappointing yourself and b) not disappointing him. Everyone else is peripheral.
Whether you feel badly for Kim or think it was a huge hoax, every bride can learn something crucial from the Kardashian-Humphries wedding catastrophe. Although aspire to behave like some celebrities, there are others we can simply learn from. So keep private, slow down, and keep the end in mind.
What are do you think about the Kardashian-Humphries wedding? Are there any other things you learned that would be helpful to brides all over the world? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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