Although I reflected on my very first business school class in my last entry, I decided it’s more appropriate (and probably a better read) to pull a Marty McFly and time travel to find the brightest bridal lessons from my MBA coursework. Flux capacitors on, let’s hit 88 MPH and fast forward about a year and a half later to economics.
Thank goodness for a quippy professor with exceptional real life stories to accompany painfully boring topics. He made what could have been three hours of wanting to poke my eyes out with a dull pencil to a somewhat entertaining class. In more than one instance, he literally unplugged the course audio recording to tell us stories about his stray-jacket-worthy relatives, which made me cry tears of laughter and ironically related back to the economic topic of choice.
Let’s skip the boring technical jargon like production possibility frontiers, trade off costs and the rules of shut down. This zany and entertaining economics professor left me with one key thought: manage what you can, outsource what you can’t. Allow me to expand: he provided an example of hiring a service to clean your home. If you pay someone to clean your home $10 for an hour and you value your time at $15 for an hour, you should pay the $10 and retain the $5 value for yourself. Since this is not a blog about hiring a cleaning service, let me tell you how applies to bridal planning.
As brides, we’re all busy. Allow me to share my busy-bee-ness with you.
I wake up at 6:15 each weekday and work full-time, spend three hours in the classroom twice a week, do homework, meet with school groups, help plan my best friend’s bridal shower and bachelorette party, work on growing my in digital marketing, and review my own bridal stuff from a distance. Yeah, I said it, “stuff.” I’m typically in bed somewhere between 10:30 and 11:30, depending on my exhaustion level, which ranges these days from an 8-10 on the 10-point scale. And what else? Oh yes…I try to be a normal human being by being social, food shopping, laundry, cooking, and exercising. Not much wiggle room, as you can see.
I was engaged for about 10 months when I went out to eat with my bestest/MOH. I sat across the table from her practically in tears over the miniscule amount of progress I was making on my bridal planning. She had been engaged for two months and was half way done with planning – a fantastic zinger compared to my depressing slackerness. After I successfully embraced the trifecta of frustration, sadness, and anger, she finally said to me, “C, enough is enough. You need help. Hire a bridal planner.” In a bubble over her head, in floats the head of my economics professor hauntingly saying, “manage what you can, outsource what you can’t.”
Who’d ever thought that my trendy MOH and my Brahmin professor have something in common? They’re both right. As much as I want to research an absurd amount of vendors, try to handle all the small details like picking out flowers, dresses, shoes, venues, food, balancing the hectic lifestyle I’ve lead pre-engagement was not a possibility. So I decided to manage what I can, outsource what I can’t. I carefully interviewed four wedding planners and went into a contract with a brilliant, fun, and young planner who has been an absolute dream so far. She takes a lot of my stress away at an extremely affordable price, especially affordable because it cares for my sanity. Check out her company by clicking here.
The bridal takeaway: do a value check – manage what you value most and try to give the reins to others (aka outsource) for those things you need not control. The moral of the story is not to hire a bridal planner, although it’s the best decision I’ve made so far. Instead, you should closely examine what’s important to you and see if those people riding on your “wedding planning bus” (see my last post) can take on more responsibility and you can give/outsource projects to.
A fun exercise to reinforce the topic:
I can manage ___________ because ________.
I will outsource ___________ because I can’t ______.