Unsurprisingly, I’m reading a book called All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten by Robert Fulghum. I started reading the book after it was referenced in a HubSpot blog I follow. The blogger applied the principles outlined in Robert’s book to business. But the principles are so fundamental to human existence, it can be applied to brides as well.
The basic life principles are this:
- Share everything.
- Play fair.
- Don’t hit people.
- Put things back where you found them.
- Clean up your own mess.
- Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
- Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
- Wash your hands before you eat.
- Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
- Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
- Take a nap every afternoon.
- When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
- Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
- Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die. So do we.
- And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned – the biggest word of all – LOOK.
See, it is everything you learned in kindergarten that applies now. The book is a compilation of very short experiences in one man’s life and how these fundamental values apply in different situations. There is one story I will share with the brides because I think ladies in white especially need the lesson…
It’s a story of how the author, upon graduation for seminary school, he had no job, no money, a wife, and a baby. The author reached out to the Dean of the school (who was also the author’s mentor). The Dean was impressed that the author was reaching out for help and would help him with money. All the Dean needed was a budget from the author.
The author submitted a first budget. The Dean rejected it. The author submitted a second budget with a lower monthly allocation, which barely allowed the author to scrape by. The Dean rejected it again. The author, infuriated, barged into the Dean’s office yelling about how that budget is as low as he could go. The Dean then informed him he rejected the first and the second budget because it allocated no money for “joy.” No room for beer, no date nights, no gifts for the baby.
It’s important that brides budget room for joy. When considering your budget, what is really going to make you happy? Is the perfect dress going to make you smile a ton? Will a live percussionist to accompany the DJ wow your guests and blow your mind? Or will the photo booth really make you feel satisfied. Whatever you budget, make room for the things that bring you joy first and foremost…all else will fall in place after. Just like warm cookies and milk are not considered healthy for your diet but are healthy for the soul, making room for joy may not be as healthy for your budget but is healthy for your soul.
Have a healthy soul. Decide where to budget joy into your wedding.
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