Rather than bore you with a listing of wedding speech faux paus, check out Cheryl Texiera’s, my new friend and bride-to-be vlogger, take on wedding speeches.
Here are five rules of thumb that every maid of honor, best man, father of the bride, or anyone else giving a speech should follow to ensure a memorable, courteous, and heartfelt appreciation of the couple of honor:
Keep your wedding speech to 2 minutes or less. Doing so allows the party to continue without an extended diatribe on your personal thoughts. Short and sweet is key.
Keep your focus and energy on the bride and groom, not on yourself. Avoid words like “I,” “my,” “me,” and anything else that brings the attention to yourself. Remember, your wedding speech should be honoring the bride and bridegroom, not yourself.
There’s nothing more memorable (in a bad way) than a fuddling baffoon with a microphone slurring their words. If your annoited as a speech giver at a wedding, hold off on boozing heavy ’til after your speech. There’s nothing wrong with a sip or two of champagne to take the edge off, but avoid shots and a large quantity of drinks.
Here’s a hint to all speech givers out there: the canned speeches on the webare meant to inspire you, not provide you with filler. Savvy wedding guests (and those who attend a lot of weddings) may pick up that you are simply copying what is written on the web. It shows your disinterest, lack of preparation, and lack of appreciation for the bride and groom. Put some effort into it, will ya?
Sometimes, the things you write down don’t sound the same when you say them out loud. So rehearse your prepared speech in the mirror, practicing intonation, facial expressions, and time length. Even practice with a few friends (who aren’t going to the wedding) to make sure you sound like you’re making sense.
By following these five tips, you’ll sound like the toastmaster of all toastmasters and the bride, groom, and guests will all appreciate your kind words and thoughtful phrases.
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