After the two (excruciatingly blase) questions about technology, the moderator asked the women to talk about balance, which led us down a path from which we did not return – it was a beautiful and enlightening path. To boil down the long discussion, here are the three key things these powerhouses talked about that brides can use in planning weddings.
- Prioritize. Talk about focus! These women were spouses, mothers, women, and business professionals…in that order. There was no confusing where their priorities were. Ina Kamanz literally said when paying bills, she set her priorities as 1) pay the mortgage, 2) pay for childcare. She said everything else comes after those two. So when we consider the gazillion hats we wear to plan our wedding, maybe we should prioritize them. It will help us to keep calm, stay focused, and approach this wedding with the correct level of energy.
- Take time out for you. Kathy Kountze-Tatum discussed how it is crucial for her to take time to go for a massage once a month. While she admitted that it might appear selfish on the surface, you are a better person to everyone around you when you do take the time to do things that relax you. Give yourself permission to do somethings for you. Do it as a favor not only to yourself, but to everyone else.
- Allow for plateaus. Linda Lacomte sat at the front of the room with her fingers pointed toward the ceiling and her wrist angled down toward the floor at a 45 degree angle. She said, “this is often what women want their career trajectory to be.” She then leveled off her hand and said, “but this is good when things come up in life – plateau.” The meaning: allow yourself to cool the wedding-planning jets, especially if there is something else going on in life. It’s OK to take a break from wedding planning and you should do so often – you are other things than a bride after all. An upward planning trajectory will burn the unity candle at both ends. Practice your plateau as a reward to yourself or as a way to show appreciation for another person.
Here are some tools to help you use their tricks.
Now put them in order of most important to least important.
Take time for you
I like to:
I will take __ days off of wedding planning after I accomplish _________.
If my _____ gets sick, I will take off of wedding planning until ___________.
As a way to show appreciation for ______, I will not discuss wedding planning with him/her for ____ days after ______ has been cared for.
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