|Obstacles only strengthen
At various points in our life, we will have to overcome adversity. Business-savvy women know that the challenges in their life are no time to give in. Brides should know the same thing applies to them.
Whether it be that you have to fire that bridesmaid, that negotiations with a vendor go awry, or you are arguing with a wedding influencer over big wedding costs, we will all face some type of obstacles that challenges our resilience and our sanity. This is a good test for the bigger picture, as there is no doubt that throughout our lives (not just during wedding planning) we will be dished out these hard-to-handle circumstances.
The key is to maintain control: control over our sense of self, what we want to achieve, and over our emotions. If you find it hard to not flip off the handle at the slightest thing, have a thorough conversation with yourself and commit to using the following three strategies to help you maintain control:
#1 Strong sense of worth
Knowing who you are, what you stand for, and your values will help you to have a quality called “thick skin,” which essentially means you can take criticism well and are not entertained by people who make cheap shots. If you are strongly oriented on what is fair, why it is fair, and where you stand, you will develop self-respect and will think clearly through any situation, wedding or not.
#2 Unwavering focus
As a woman and bride-to-be, it’s important that you know what you want. Pick a goal and stay focused on achieving the goal. As trials and tribulations head your way, staying focused on what you will achieve will give you a clear vision that is easily communicated to others. Bottom line is this: Keep at it and don’t let any distractions change your focus.
#3 Laugh a lot
I work with a Director who laughs…a lot. In moments where I would cry, she bursts into hysterical laughter. This seemed so foreign to me, until I also noticed that she was happy…much happier in her roles and responsibilities than her peers. This is evidence that laughing makes people happier. Don’t believe me? Believe Leigh Newman, an Oprah blogger, who wrote, “Laughter can lower your heart rate and blood pressure as well as reduce the constriction in your blood vessels. It can also help with your mental health.” So laugh more – because life is not that serious and everything is just a little funny.
We will all be challenged in some way, shape, or form during our wedding planning that will call on our highest resiliency powers. But the key is that this will happen in life time and time again and it is important to further develop these skills now for a successful wedding planning process, wedding, marriage, and future.
So, what have you laughed at today?